Making Peace with Grief

Making Peace with Grief: Achieving “Temporal Integration” If you are grieving, trying to make sense about life…and death…is probably frequently on your mind.  It was on my mind when my husband was diagnosed with cancer, throughout his treatment, and still continues long after his death. Recently, I’ve come across some science on brain health that helped me to understand my grieving process better. Instinctually, the... Read More

“Chronic” Grief

For more acute grief, please read post 1 and post 2. I end post 2 with the quote, “The place in your body where these two meet—strong back and soft front—is the brave, tender ground in which to root our caring deeply when we begin the process of being with dying.” (p.17) But what about the “brave. tender ground” when we are at the two year or the five year anniversary of our loss?  I always say to clients who are experiencing... Read More

Grief Toolkit: Helpful Phrases

My hope is that anyone experiencing deep grief can somehow encounter my “grief toolkit” here.  I am going to list the tools that I used as I was with my husband, Roger, during his cancer diagnosis.  These tools aren’t a panacea for grief.  The truth is that, quite possibly, if you are the grieving person, the emotions that you are experiencing are the most intense and painful that you have ever known.  This can be if you are grieving... Read More

Grief Toolkit: Strong Back, Soft Front

My hope is that anyone experiencing deep grief can somehow encounter my “grief toolkit” here.  I am going to list the tools that I used as I was with my husband, Roger, during his cancer diagnosis.  These tools aren’t a panacea for grief.  The truth is that, quite possibly, if you are the grieving person, the emotions that you are experiencing are the most intense and painful that you have ever known.  This can be if you are grieving... Read More